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Change…and moving in the rain!

August 2, 2013 Leave a comment

As I write this I have finished up our first day of moving. I’m feeling a bit tired and stiff…some muscles were stretched a bit more than usual today! But thank goodness for Qigong! I moved well through the day and after a rest will be ready for another one tomorrow!

I woke up on the first day of August to rain. My first reaction was, “oh, no, moving in the rain won’t be much fun” (as if moving is ever fun!). Then I quickly recalled my Dad’s admonition to never complain about the rain. He was a dairy farmer his whole life. The grass and the crops that provided all the feed for the cattle depended on the rain. And when you are in the middle of a field, putting up hay for the winter, the rain can be inconvenient. But it is not something to complain about, ever!

I quickly changed my “oh, no” to an “oh, well, we do need some rain; and in any case there is nothing I can do about it!”

Fortunately we live in Maryland where the weather can change on a dime. By the afternoon the rain was gone and the sun was shining and we moved our first load without getting wet at all!

Whether we are talking about change in the weather or we are talking about bigger changes, like moving an entire household to a new house, change is inevitable. The only question is what attitude to assume when looking at the on-rushing changes.

And this is my point. Rosemary and I have both been writing a lot about change lately. We are anticipating many changes in the coming months. We know many will be great, in full alignment with our direction and goals. We also know there will be stumbling blocks put in our way; our lessons lie before us and we accept them. The question we ask as we move into every step, every change we either want to make or are forced to make by circumstances is: “how is my attitude toward this change?”

Some days it’s going to rain. Some days we might stumble. Some lessons may be harder to learn than others. But we both know we are on the right path, we are doing what we love, and we are ever expanding into our Soul Purpose Work.

How do you approach change in your life? Do you fear it? Avoid it? Do you rush into it with your eyes shut? These questions bring me to my second point about change: After I get my attitude about the inevitability of change set correctly I then face the choices in my response to the change.

All change comes with choice. My response today to the rain I awoke to could have been to postpone the move by a day. The weather report indicated the possible clearing by the afternoon, but you know how well the weather people predict! I moved forward with a certain amount of trust that things would work out. While my Dad was saying: “never complain about the rain” Rosemary’s Mom was saying: “things always work out for the best.” And sure enough, they did today!

So, maybe the big lesson today is “trust your parents.” They may have some pithy sayings and family proverbs to offer but in my case they tend to be right more often than not!

Adopt a positive attitude toward inevitable change, make the best choices you can under the circumstances and trust your parents! Good guidance for facing the changes that are coming!

PS: Happy Solar Return, Rosemary!! Yes, Rosemary and I have the same birthday. This year is the 41st one we’ve been happy to share!



January 1, 2012 Leave a comment

From RosemarySpace and my family we wish you all a very Happy and Prosperous 2013! May you live Your Richest Life!

Happiness is Family All Around!


I’m Back!

September 22, 2011 2 comments

I have been away for too long! Sorry, it has been a hectic year. How is 2011 treating you?

I am still in the midst of rubble! No, there’s been no tragedy that’s struck here other than one of my own making! You see Rosemary and I have decided to sell our house in Colorado and move back to Maryland. This is a long and winding story and I’ll spare you the details. Here’s the high view:

We moved to Colorado in early 2000 just a couple of weeks after Rosemary’s Mom, Gloria, made her transition. We moved more stuff than we wanted to, but since it was a corporate move and we were in the midst of grief, the packers and movers packed everything in our Maryland house, yes, even some trash! In 2003 my company wanted me back in Maryland; rather than move again we went the short-term rental route keeping the house in Colorado. Four “short-term” places and five years later I retired and we moved back to our house in Colorado. Basically we then had two house-holds worth of stuff in this one house.

Well, I’m now going through all that stuff and purging. It’s a task and a half! Boxes of keep-stuff are in the basement and garage. Boxes of give-stuff are in the entry-way to be picked up soon. And I have many more boxes to fill! So, I’m living among the rubble of sorting, purging, packing, pitching as I go room-to-room preparing the house for sale. And this is my shallow excuse for my absence from this blog!

But I have not been idle in other ways aside from the move. In fact a friend of mine, Glenn M. Smith and I are joining forces to start a movement.  And you can read about this movement, still in the “crawling phase” at:

And I’m going to repost an article I wrote for that site here; please read the next post.

Glenn’s and my new site is a social site meant to gain membership and discussion on any range of topics men may be interested in pursuing. Please visit and join our movement!

Meanwhile I plan to keep “Men and the Goddess” alive and begin feeding it again. I’ll keep you “posted” on that!

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