Posts Tagged ‘Expectations’


March 27, 2013 Leave a comment

What is your attitude toward surprises?  Many people say they don’t like to be surprised. They want to know if there is a surprise party for them about to happen.  They don’t like change.  They don’t like the feeling of ‘not knowing.’  They don’t like to feel that they are not in control.

But what about loving surprises?  Loving that surprise party that a loved one engineered just for you.  Being thrilled when someone does something nice for you or gives you an unexpected gift.  How do you feel when that happens?

Life on the Earthly Plane is full of surprises.  Some of these surprises are as thrilling as that unexpected gift.  Some, however, are not so much fun.  Are you willing to accept the ‘not knowing’ as an essential part of life on Earth?

As a human being, it is easy to fall into the trap of always wanting to be in control of your life.  That would be nice.  But the Earth is inhabited by other human beings who also want to be in control of their lives.  What happens when these two desires collide?

Life can become chaotic through no fault of yours.  Or you can thrive on the drama that chaos creates.  Things can go smoothly for about a minute and then some new wrinkle is thrown into your day.  How do you react?

The important part of growing in your level of consciousness is to make peace with the understanding that you will never be in 100% control of your environment and the circumstances of your time on Earth.  Other people around you have free will and will sometimes make choices that will conflict with your desires, especially if one of your desires is for total peace and control over everything.

And sometimes Mother Nature decides to let you know that she is in control of her biosphere – that you are allowed to inhabit HER domain but she is ultimately in charge.  Hurricanes, tornadoes, floods, winter storms, lightning – these are not under your control and yet they happen.  What is your response?

Are you reading these words and thinking that they conflict with the concept of ‘your thoughts create your reality’?  There really is no conflict, if you think about it deeply.

The point is not that people don’t sit around wishing for a huge storm to come and destroy their house.  But there are a lot of people who are worrying about that eventuality.  Worry sets up the same magnet of attraction as desire does – did you know that?  Thinking about what you don’t want does attract that very energy.

And thinking about what you do want has to have some caveats attached to it.  Not the usual, ‘is it realistic?’ caveat, which really means, ‘can you see the way to make that happen?’  But are you wishing for something that takes away the power of others to have free will?

I’ve heard people say that they are trying to work with the Law of Attraction but that other person still hasn’t changed into what they want them to be.  Hmmmmm……  What’s wrong with this picture?

How about understanding that not knowing HOW you will receive that which you are desiring allows the Universe to bring it to you in unexpected, surprising ways?  And if you are working with the Law of Attraction you must be honoring other Laws of the Universe, including the Law of Free Will of all individuals.  You do not have permission to try to make others change.

When you demand control of your environment, you limit the ways in which the Universe answers your requests.  Your thoughts are projecting an often unconscious request to keep things just the way they are.  And, yet, there are laws of the Universe about change being ever present.

Your thoughts are sending out energy that does create those storms and that chaos and we’ll talk about that later.  For today, remember this equation:

EVENT leads to your REACTION and then you choose a RESPONSE.

While you might not control all the events that happen [Surprise!] and your reaction is your immediate ‘knee jerk’ feeling, you DO control how you respond.  Put your energies into practicing Conscious Response – choosing the response that demonstrates your personal growth.  Then you can relax into making peace with the ‘not knowing’ and enjoy the ‘Surprise!’

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March 26, 2013 Leave a comment

Here’s Rosemary’s video for the week: Surprise!

PS: Why not surprise yourself this week with a Discovery Session with Rosemary? They are FREE! Go here to apply


March 14, 2013 Leave a comment

Are you ‘pregnant with possibilities’?

The Universe is filled with the potential of answering every dream you can dream for yourself.  But what are you expecting?

The energies of attraction are not focused like a laser when they are generated from the emotion of fear.  You can’t be worried and manifesting your dreams at the same time, for the laser that you send out like a beacon, attracting like energy into your field, is a laser tuned to that upon which you focus your worry energy, not the energy of your dream.

You do have the power to attract a nightmare but why would you?

When people start studying prosperity and the law of attraction they often do exercises to change their expectations.  Recently our daughter started expecting the Universe to give her money.  She found a dollar on a store parking lot and sat waiting for the person who had dropped it to return but no one did.  She found several dollars in the dryer when she did the laundry.  Magic?  No.  She EXPECTED the Universe to find a way to be generous with her and then she ALLOWED the Universe to choose how to do that.

I often teach that prosperity can come into your field in surprising ways when you are open to it.  One way that the Universe gives me money is to have a sale on something that I have to buy.  I was going to buy it anyway but I can save money that I would have spent.  This just happened for the Color Class that I am teaching.  We had selected the binder we wanted to give participants and had found one that came in lots of colors [this IS for a Color Class!].  We developed the prototype workbook with one binder then went back to purchase a larger quantity when we had the final numbers for the class.  The binders were on sale and they had all the colors in stock!

This doesn’t represent a lot of money saved but it was going to have to be spent anyway.  We expect the Universe to give to us in surprising ways.

What do you expect from your business?  Your boss?  Your significant other?  Your children?  Are you expecting challenges, threats, anger, disrespect?  And are you getting that?

How adaptable are you to change?  Are you willing to ‘go with the flow’?

Sometimes we get so stuck in our expectations that we forget to adapt to changing circumstances or energies.  Have you ever thought about changing your expectations?  Are you willing to change?

I knew someone who had a business and lost her business partner so was faced with only being able to pay half the rent.  It was time to renegotiate the lease and she thought she might have to move.  Instead, she focused on staying in the same space and paying half the rent.  She focused and prayed and concentrated and expected this.  She came out of the meeting with the landlord with a lease at half the rent for the next year!  It CAN happen!

Are you, at this point, telling yourself that this only happens for other people, that it doesn’t work that way for you?  As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think that you can, or that you can’t, you are usually right.”

Trying being ‘pregnant with possibilities.’  Think that you CAN manifest your dreams. EXPECT the Universe to support you in that manifestation.  Then go with the flow and allow the Universe to figure out the ‘how’ of making things happen.

Let this week be your ‘due date’ – expect great things!

PS: Rosemary did an interview with BlogTalkRadio program, Explore the Afterlife, the other day. You can listen to the recording here!

ROSEMARY’S INSPIRATION: Examine Your Expectations

March 13, 2013 Leave a comment

Rosemary’s video for the week: Examine Your Expectations

PS: Rosemary did an interview with BlogTalkRadio program, Explore the Afterlife, the other day. You can listen to the recording here!