Men and The Goddess

This week’s message, channeled by Rosemary, as last week’s, is also a very good one for men to hear! “Find the joy”! How often do we get bogged down in work issues and fail to look for joy? How often are we so wrapped up with personal problems, social justice issues, political engagement, financial concerns, family crises, …, you name it and there is something to take us into dark places, our “man’s cave”, where we can hope to escape from the pressures of post-modern life! But what if we take a moment, take a breath, pause for one conscious instant and ask: “can I find joy here”?

And the answer The Divine Feminine gives us: “There is joy to be found in every moment of your time on Planet Earth if you will but search for the joy instead of dwelling on the painful aspects of that moment.”

Is it really that simple or is this another “Pollyanna” perspective that has no basis in reality? It can be that simple with the tools available to us. And here’s a really simple one for you to practice. Rosemary taught this technique this past weekend during her workshop/playshop on applying Conscious Confidence to decision making. During one of the segments we worked on moving from foveal vision to peripheral vision. Foveal vision is focused, concentrated vision along a central axis to a sharp and limited field of view. We tend to move into this form of vision when we are worried, anxious, scared, concentrating on an issue or problem. And it is in this mode of seeing that our fight or flight mechanism is easily triggered. The opposite of foveal vision is peripheral vision which we can move into simply by relaxing our focus, letting the eyes relax and expand. As we lose focus or defocus our vision we can begin to see well beyond the central line of sight. If we let go entirely of focus several things happen physiologically: we lose the fight or flight mechanism; we begin to significantly extend our field of vision, easily to 180 degrees and even more; and we can even see beyond the purely physical. What I mean by this last point is we move much more easily into our intuitive sight, even opening our third eye.

Hawaiian spirituality labeled this type of seeing “hakalau.” Here is a good website for explaining the technique and applying it as a meditation approach: HAKALAU.  I frequently go into hakalau when I want to see more than what is just in front of me. A very practical application is when driving and sitting at a red light: I go into hakalau to view the entire intersection and to see, after my light turns green, that it is safe to proceed.

Sometimes when we are “focused” on a problem or issue it is difficult to see “joy” in that moment, even though The Divine Feminine says “there is joy to be found in every moment.” However, if we can pause in those anxious moments to go into hakalau, even for a moment, we are likely to see in the periphery of our vision something to bring a smile and create a sense of joy.

I hope you have a chance to try it. It works for me!