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ROSEMARY’S INSPIRATION: Be the Family You Want to Have!

July 22, 2014 Leave a comment

Rosemary’s  “Two-Minute” Video for this Week: Be the Family You Want to Have!

Gratitude and Happiness

November 29, 2013 Leave a comment

We just finished one holiday here in the US; some call it “Turkey Day” – affectionately because turkey is the traditional main course for the meal. And we held up our part of the tradition with turkey and all the trimmings at our niece and nephew’s home. It was good to be with the family and I am very grateful to be part of this loving and close extended “Robertson Clan.”

There is a lot of gratitude going around now. I wrote about two of the people I am most grateful for yesterday. My goal is to be grateful and demonstrate that gratefulness every day of the year. As we move deeper into the holidays, already in the spirit of Hanukkah, moving toward Solstice and then Christmas, the 12 Days, a New Year and then Epiphany, I grow ever more excited, contemplative, boisterous, quiet, bustling, restful, high and low. I like this roller coaster ride for the emotions. If I really want to get myself pumped up one of our traditional holiday movies will do it every time.

It is easy for some to remain in gratitude through the holidays. Many give and receive gifts. Our family drew names today for our “secret Santa” gift exchange. We keep it simple just giving one gift to a member of the family and receiving one from our surprise Santa on Christmas Eve. I am grateful we keep the tradition of gift giving and keep it simple; it eases the stress of finding just the right gift for a long list of family and friends.

What are your traditions? Are you happy with them? If they bring stress into your life it might be time to evaluate those traditions and make some adjustments. The rule here is happiness and self-care. Traditions don’t have to be hard and fast rules.

I am on a journey of happiness. I have frequently written here on this blog about transformation. We are on a long road of transformation and it doesn’t necessarily look much like I expected. But I know we are on it for all the bumps and curves coming at us at high speed. Have you noticed?

Is your journey smooth and straight? Are you cruising at a moderate pace, comfortable with the ebb and flow of your life? Be grateful; be happy!

I am adopting the attitude that happiness can smooth out the bumps and open up the tight curves we hurtle toward; and it can even ease the speed. Happiness is a choice. Happiness is a practice. Happiness is the journey. Happiness is the transformation!

As we enter the sometimes hectic, sometimes stressful holidays I am taking Rosemary’s advice:  Let’s make this year the year of truly ‘Happy Holidays’ no matter what your personal circumstances might be!

I am choosing this Journey of Happiness! Join me?

Stay Happy Through the Holidays – Richard’s Commentary

November 28, 2013 Leave a comment

Today, the holiday festivities all begin with the day we set aside here in the US to give thanks. I’ve been giving thanks, writing notes of gratitude in my “morning pages” this week. I began my thank you notes, giving deep gratitude for my incredible partner, wife and love of my life, Rosemary. And if you have been following our blogs and reading our posts you know what a talented and resourceful woman she is. Her advice for conscious living and spiritual evolution are profound and creative. And her advice for the holidays is no different! She suggests:

The first step to staying happy through the holidays is to do a realistic and honest assessment of this time of year for yourself.

This may sound superficial but do you move into this time of year with a perspective of staying happy? We have all heard the stories of people who are alone, who dread the holidays because they don’t get along with family, who feel bad because they can’t afford to give elaborate or expensive gifts, who party and drink their way through the season. Perspective is an all-important first step to be happy in every moment.

Next Rosemary suggests:

Consider a new way of operating through the holidays this year.

Everyone around you is struggling with their own life lessons. Somehow the holidays come with Hallmark Cards and Norman Rockwell expectations that nobody really experiences. If you put self-care at the top of your agenda, IT IS NOT SELFISH!!!! Let me repeat that – Self-Care is not being self-ish!!!

Self-Care – in other words, give yourself the gift of looking out for you! Attend to your health, prepare wholesome meals for your celebrations, if you drink alcohol moderate your intake, stay warm and especially keep your neck and throat protected and warm, keep moving with yoga or qigong or another body practice, take time to meditate and if you don’t meditate this season is a great time to start, celebrate the special holidays in your tradition – make them Holy, honor everyone you meet as learning their lessons just as you are – they are you!

Compassion begins with yourself. Taking care of you is taking care of everyone. Recall Rosemary’s question in her inspirational video posted Tuesday: “can compassion for yourself equal compassion for them?” She goes on to suggest:

Look at your calendar for the rest of 2013 and decide what you will do for yourself. Rest. Relax. Pamper yourself. Watch movies that make you smile. Hang out with friends or go on a silent retreat.

As we approach the Winter Solstice, one of those special holidays we celebrate, it is a good time to go inside, to do the inner work of deep winter. The Ancients took this time to retreat, to look inward for the coming renewal. Deep inner work is another way to take care of yourself on the personal level and all others on the global level. This is true compassion!

Coming back to Thanksgiving I took Rosemary’s advice and turned inward to give thanks for me. I am grateful for my soul path, my spiritual journey back to myself, I am grateful for the health and strength to make this journey, I am grateful to myself for making the commitment, I honor myself for my discipline and I am grateful for all of the spiritual teachers and guides that hold me in their love and compassion.

Be grateful for yourself! I am grateful for you because I know you are supporting me on my journey.

Have wonderful, blessed and happy holidays!

ROSEMARY’S EXPLORATION: Stay Happy Through the Holidays!

November 27, 2013 Leave a comment

It’s that time of year when the stores seem to reach out to grab you to come inside and spend your money. The meals and parties get you focused on food and drink. You have to make sure you can get to all the events, have the right clothes, the right gifts, the travel arrangements. And for many it is a time of overwhelm.

For others, though, it is a very lonely time. You might be worried about finances and wishing you had more money with which to buy gifts. You might not have any family to visit or they are too far away. You might be looking at the holidays with no plans or parties or meals to attend.

And for a few you might have family gatherings in which to participate that you are not really anticipating with pleasure.

Even those who love the holiday season can have expectations that are not met and, thus, experience disappointment.

Let’s make this year the year of truly ‘Happy Holidays’ no matter what your personal circumstances might be!

The first step to staying happy through the holidays is to do a realistic and honest assessment of this time of year for yourself. Do you really need to buy everything that you usually do? Do you need to put as much pressure on yourself as you usually do? Do you need to attend every party? Every gathering?

What is your energy level now, as the holidays approach? Do you need more rest and self-care than you need excitement and company? Why not choose a different pattern to your holidays this year?

How are your finances? Do you get stressed out by spending before the end of the year and then worrying about the bills in January? Do you buy a lot of gifts because you feel you must instead of genuinely wanting to share?

The honest assessment leads you to understand what YOU need in this season.

Next, ask yourself if you really must spend time with people who upset and disturb you or if you can find time for yourself without that burden this year. This might even be your family. Are you looking forward to seeing them or do you dread the time you spend there?

Consider a new way of operating through the holidays this year.

Everyone around you is struggling with their own life lessons. Somehow the holidays come with Hallmark Cards and Norman Rockwell expectations that nobody really experiences. If you put self-care at the top of your agenda, IT IS NOT SELFISH!!!! Let me repeat that – Self-Care is not being self-ish!!!

Taking care of yourself might be limiting what you spend this season to what you can comfortably afford. Make some gifts. Give away something that’s meaningful to you and share its story with the recipient. Go to bazaars and thrift shops and find unusual items that will delight someone.

Look at your calendar for the rest of 2013 and decide what you will do for yourself. Rest. Relax. Pamper yourself. Watch movies that make you smile. Hang out with friends or go on a silent retreat. If you’re lonely, find a shelter where they need volunteers. If you’re overwhelmed with social ‘obligations,’ decide how to handle the schedule to preserve your energy for the activities that matter most to you. Ask for help if you need it.

Spend some time planning for 2014. This doesn’t have to mean the big New Year’s Resolution list, but pick a theme for the year that resonates with your heart. Delight yourself with your plans. Dream BIG!!!

Remember that everyone around you has something going on in their life that they are having to handle. Take care of yourself so that you can show up fully present to everyone else. Be CURIOUS . This helps to keep you focused on the mysteries and not on what upsets you. Have healthy boundaries. Eat healthy foods. Take care of your own health.

Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have at any given moment – even you!

May you truly have Happy Holidays this year!

PS: Need help making it a happy holiday time? Looking for guidance and additional resources from beyond the norm?  You can receive personal messages from Guides, Spirits, Angels and loved ones who have crossed over at Rosemary’s next event: a Conversation with The Other Side December 6 at 7:00 pm Eastern. Click for details

ROSEMARY’S EXPLORATION: What Does Self-Love Look Like?

March 20, 2013 Leave a comment

For each individual the specifics of Self-Love will differ, but the underlying energy is the same.

Love is a very high vibration, much higher than Romance, with which many people confuse Love.  The energy of Pure Love is the vibrational frequency of the unifying force of the Universe.  Love creates.  Love bonds.  Love attracts and holds securely.  Love frees.  Love develops and Love lets go.  Love releases bonds that no longer serve.

These statements are true for every element in the Universe, from the smallest particle of matter to the energy of a human being to the largest planets, stars, galaxies.  Love is the strongest force in the Universe.

All Love flows from Self-Love.  The Universe-before-the-Universe so loved itself that it exploded into the Universe that you are experiencing at this time in the 21st Century.  Everything that exists in this Universe was created out of energy potential of the Love that existed in that explosion of Self-Love.  Every Universe came from that same energy.

In the life of every human being, there must be enough Self-Love to explode energy – that is the creative force energy – to manifest dreams into reality.  If there is not enough Self-Love, then energy is sucked into oneself without the pure expression of Love energy in the outer world.

Those who exist with little or no Self-Love cannot manifest their high vibration dreams and desires.

All Love blossoms out of Self-Love.  If you have a high enough level of this Self-Love then you cannot help but overflow into sharing that Love as Creative Energy in the world around you.

No relationship improves by working on it without also elevating one’s level of Self-Love.  No situation – job, career, financial, legal, etc. – will improve before the person involved increases the level of Self-Love within.

What does this look like?

For one person, Self-Love might appear as eating a healthier diet.  For another, it might be taking time to meditate or journal or walk in Nature.  For someone else, Self-Love may mean severing a friendship, ending a relationship or quitting a job.

One person might need to speak their truth aloud.  Another might need to stay quiet and change their situation.

The high vibration of Self-Love eclipses lashing out to hurt another but that doesn’t mean that others might not choose to feel hurt or even to play the victim in the situation.  Self-Love leads one to stand in their own truth no matter what happens outside and around them.  There is no intention to hurt another and yet there is also no responsibility for the reception one receives when standing in Self-Love.

Self-Love is not the same as Self-Care but all Self-Care develops out of Self-Love if it is healthy care.  One does not rebel or feel guilty when Self-Care stems from Self-Love.  There is a neutral character to this Self-Care—it just IS because it is based in Self-Love.

Ask yourself if you Love yourself enough to make choices from a place of Self-Love.  Are you willing to look inside yourself and to love every part that you find there?  Are you open to loving even those parts that you are wishing to change, simply because they are YOU and they have served you in some way up to this point?

Self-Acceptance and Self-Care come from Self-Love.  As the Universe loved itself into existence, so should your Life be a reflection of great Self-Love.  If you are unhappy about some element of your Life, then focus on increasing your level of Self-Love so that your Life can change to reflect that higher level of Love vibration.

Love your Life into existence as you desire, letting it blossom forth from Self-Love.

PS: In honor of the Equinox this week Rosemary is offering a Spring Cleaning Speciala big discount on your Scientific Hand Analysis Session$100 off! This is the time to learn about your Soul Purpose and the gifts you’ve been given to manifest that Purpose in your life.  If you’re ready to leap forward and take advantage of those expectations then send Rosemary an email and she’ll give you the discount code for your Scientific Hand Analysis Session.  Get your Spring Cleaning done by clearing away the questions you have about ‘Why am I here?’  and ‘What are my next steps?’!  rosemary@TheScientificMystic.com

Need more information on Scientific Hand Analysis? Find it here!

ROSEMARY’S INSPIRATION: Love Yourself into Your Greatness!

March 19, 2013 Leave a comment

Here’s Rosemary’s video for the week: Love Yourself into Your Greatness!

PS: Are you interested in the subject of “Life after Life”?  Rosemary did an interview with BlogTalkRadio program, Explore the Afterlife, the other day. Check out the recording here!